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304 – in need of an attitude adjustment

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i have been in a testy and on-edge mood all day.

This morning, after my shower and before i was able to get dressed, David says, “lay on the bed.”

So i did. On my back. And i spread my legs. To which he said, “how do you know that’s what I wanted? Maybe you are about to be spanked.”

i didn’t move. i just smiled and said, “i guess i don’t know. Did i assume incorrectly SIR?”

To which he came down between my legs and said, “Maybe.”

But then his tongue collided with my clit and i was suddenly reassured that i did NOT assume incorrectly! i suddenly felt alert and very much alive.

As his tongue moved, my body responded. i was wet and moaning in pleasure. i asked him to stick his fingers inside me and he did.

I started moving my hips and getting myself off on his fingers.

i eeked out various words, inc,using, “This feels so good Sir.” And “thank you Sir” and “please don’t stop Sir.”

And finally i felt my orgasm getting to the edge when i said, “i am about to orgasm.” (And about a minute’ish later is when i always ask permission to orgasm, but this is the “warning” that i am THAT close… and even when i do ask, frequently i don’t hold it in. But i have never been punished for orgasming when i get there like this.)

That’s when he IMMEDIATELY pulled his fingers out of my pussy hole, pulled his tongue away from my clit, and said, “No. NO, you are NOT going to orgasm.”

i just stared at him. In my mind i was thinking, “WTF?!” and aloud, i actually said nothing.

i was in utter shock. He has never stopped and never not allowed me to orgasm. But sometimes he does mess with me, so i thought that was likely the case.

He smiled, let out a bit of a chuckle and said, “go put the belt on. You won’t be orgasming this morning.”

i just stared at him more. And then i said, “you can’t be serious?”

That’s when he grabbed my ankles, pulled me to the edge of the bed, and said, “I’m very serious. Get up, go get the belt on, and bring me the key.”

And that was all it took….. i was officially in a bad mood. But i did as told. Under protest of course.

He laughed at me and said, “That’s not what you wanted to hear, was it?”

“No Sir.”

He laughed more and said, “well, it’s going to be all that you get. Get ready to have a good day!”

i got dressed slowly …… hoping he’d come in and change his mind. It didn’t happen.

By the time i was at work, i was in a cranky ass mood. About an hour later, i texted David asking when i would be able to take the belt off. And he responded with a question, “When will you stop being a pissy little baby?” (Aka: when was i going to stop pouting about it already?)

i didn’t respond for a good bit and finally said, “Good question Sir. i may need an attitude adjustment.”

i wasn’t sure if i wanted to be spanked, in the belt (or not), or just be left alone to get my shit together on my own. All i knew for sure was i definitely needed an attitude adjustment. Or an orgasm. Or both.

Needless to say… David has ignored the fact i am stillllllll in the belt and stilllllll have not orgasmed. He is probably waiting for me to change my attitude by myself, which has yet to happen but is slowly starting to creep in. But i suspect if i don’t get it together soon, i may be receiving a spanking after all…. Or be stuck in the belt until further notice…. Or both.

And i am still sitting in the belt now, No orgasm. No release of ANY kind. It is 8pm… more than 12-hours at this point.

i may well be sleeping in the belt. F-I-N-E.

And … tomorrow is Friday. Yet another opportunity for Maintenance. Probably going to happen this week for sure i think. And probably not an “easy” maintenance if i were to guess, especially after today’s attitude problems. Ugh.

Come to think of it… i may be in the belt for a long time still.… possibly much of the weekend. F-I-N-E!

Hugs,

Marie

298 – Struggling

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i am struggling.

i am thinking about how crazy, silly, absurd, and strange my chastity belt fascination is.

David is out of town. For a total of 5-days, from Saturday (yesterday) to Wednesday. Today is just Sunday, 1-day into his trip. And maybe i am just missing him or maybe i am crazy or maybe i am just being a brat…. but…. i am struggling a lot.

When David left, he told me to put on the old belt, like how i wrote about, where i said within a few short hours it was sooooo uncomfortable that i was able to take it off.

David then said to put on the new belt and only take it off to poop. i did. i put on the new belt.

And it has now been on for 24-hours, minus the few minutes to poop this morning. Things are all good physically, without chafing or stretches or itching, or anything.

But i am struggling mentally.

i told David this whole thing is stupid. Me wearing it, feeling like it’s needed, acting like it is a better way… is all stupid. And that makes ME stupid too.

There’s a reason why most people, in their sane mind, don’t wear chastity belts. Sane people are ….well…. sane.

And i wonder if i am insane. i must be!

Whyyyyy else would i think this was a good idea?!

i told David all this and he said i was just freaking out unnecessarily and this is good for me.

He then proceeded to give me some reasons why i wear this belt….

1) i am more submissive when i wear it. (Which is true actually!). Every time i wear it, my “brat attitude,” evaporates and is replaced with the proper respectful ways.

In fact, last week i smarted off to David and he responded with, “do you have the belt on?” Of course, i did NOT.

2) wearing a CB may be different from other people, but it fits me. Literally and figuratively. He said i need to “just be me.” And i guess that’s true too.

The belt calms me in ways i can’t explain. i know having the control taken away from me is a good thing and helps me to relax.

3) Then he said i ought to blog about this stress i am having, that i would feel better. He was right about that too.

This blog brings me peace. i can’t talk about these INSANE and STUPID things i do with anyone in my real life. But i can talk about and be ME here to you.

And lastly, he said i would be in trouble if i take it off as i do not have permission to do so. i want to take it off, to be “sane.” But, i like what it does for me AND David. And i don’t want my butt to be torn up either.

i’m really not sure i am sane. But that’s ok. Because i am with my Sir, who loves me dearly … just as i am. Insane or not.

So now i am off to bed….. in my belt.

Hugs,

Marie

297 – Without further ado… Fancy Steel belt review

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So i have made you wait for several weeks now to get this review…. And you’ve waited very patiently indeed. i didn’t mean to make you wait, but like anything, first impressions may not tell the whole story. So i wanted to get to know the belt better before offering an opinion and now i can.

i write all this as i am here in-belt. i spent more time in belt now than out. i rather like it this way too. i will probably write an entire post sometime on the mental aspects of wearing a Chastity Belt in a world that most would see this as some perverted, insane, crazy thing. As you probably surmise, i do not share those same views (or else i would not wear it).

Here’s my thoughts…

Overall rating….

i am giving my Fancy Steel new, permanent, fitted, and very expensive Chastity Belt (CB) an ……overall rating: 9 out of 10.

Woo hoo! Mission accomplished, great job, kudos! (And the 1-point missing can and is expected to be fixed. i’ll explain further too.)

The ultimate 1-missing-point is not about the belt, but about the ordering and receipt process.

What needs to be fixed?

i am sure you want to know about this first. So i’ll just start here.

In a previous post, you saw a texting exchange between me and David where he mentioned the belt needing to “be fixed.” And this is also the reason for the 9 instead of a 10 rating.

When you read the word “fixed,” it implies that something is “broken,” but that’s not quite the case here. While the CB is in need of an adjustment to be made, it’s not actually broken either.

When the CB arrived, i immediately realized it did not have a rear opening to allow me to defecate while in belt. Instead, it was a solid rear cable extending from the dome shield over the vulva to the waistband.

Here’s a picture (from the Fancy Steel website) of what i got….

Without the rear opening, the belt must be removed to go poop, or else have a bigggggg mess to deal with. i’m not into messy (and thankfully neither is David), which means…. The belt comes off for that purpose. Which ultimately means, i have a key. Which ultimately means, it’s not working as intended.

i have NO clue why someone would spend this much money and wait this long for a belt that can’t be entirely used for the chastity purpose of taking away all their control, where another person is the key holder. But. i assume there is someone somewhere who would want this. But. No me.

The CB can still be used for its purpose, but only for short term fun.

While i can get on board with short term fun, and i am sure that’s what many do, what doesn’t add up for me is then why would someone spend THIS much money on the belt and not just go get a cheap(er) one if short term fun is their goal?! If it’s only going to be used in short time blocks, maybe say out to dinner and home again, then spend less money and DEFINITELY wait less time for its arrival.

In my opinion, the only time someone would spend 4-digits ($1,000 +) on a chastity belt would be for long term, serious wear, orgasm and physical control, and intense fun. And to do that, it MUST HAVE A REAR OPENING.

Well, also from their site, are a few pics of the rear opening of what i wanted:

These pictures are from the FS website and within the section regarding the belt i anted. Of course, I didn’t want a plug or an anal “covering” (like in the second pic), but it’s honestly hard to tell what was included in the “basic belt” and what was “add-ons” or extras. THAT is where the ultimate rating of 9 comes in.

i can appreciate them having add-ons and “more” available, but make it more clear from the start then too.

When i ordered it, because the pics were all shown together in the particular waist belt version that i wanted AND there didn’t seem to be an option to select “with or without the rear opening,” i thought i had ordered what i wanted. But apparently that’s not what happened.

Admittedly in the drop down menus were “add-on” optional parts for the belt, and the rear opening was one of them. Well. i saw that add-on, but didn’t select it when ordering for two reasons: 1) i thought the rear opening was included already (again, the pics all showed the belt WITH it), and 2) the drop down menu add-on said, “rear opening with plug.” So i assumed the belt came with a “rear opening, but without the rear plug” and because i didn’t want a plug, i didn’t select this add-on.

After it arrived and it wasn’t entirely what i wanted, i have been emailing back and forth with the Company owners and i am happy to report they are making this right. They are sending me the rear opening and as of the time of this writing, i am still waiting on its arrival, but (hopefully) it will arrive soon.

Now the owners and i have coordinated via email, where they are making this right. They have already put in the mail a rear opening, that i am sure i will be able to install, and get the belt into full order.

So the 9, instead of a 10 rating, is more about the ordering process, and the FIVE month wait, than the belt itself.

i would like to suggest to the company owners to improve their ordering and manufacturing and delivery processes, and the belt would be a 10 out of 10 rating. But that said, a 9 out of 10 is still an amazing product and not probably worth their time (or $!) in their eyes to improve things. But then again, the very first impression of them and their CB’s is the ordering, manufacturing, and delivery process too!

Comfort

Into the details of the belt’s review, i will first start with comfort. i knew from the first few hours of putting it on that it was significantly more comfortable than the other belt. Just yesterday though, i came to realize just how much more comfortable as i was locked in the old belt with David leaving to go out of town.

We agreed that because i can’t defecate in the new belt yet, while he is out of town, the old belt would go on. Within (about) 3-hours, i was given the key and allowed to take off the old belt. It was that uncomfortable and causing irritants/chafing for me already that fast.

i had adapted to the old belt more than i realized. i had learned how to wear, move, and lay/sleep in it “just so” that it didn’t cause chafing. i had built up my tolerance and endurance with the old belt.

Now though, with the new belt, i see just how much better it is built with the right measurements and better quality that it is so much more comfortable to wear long term.

So now i am on an honor system while David is out of town for 5-days, in that i have the key. i am to wear the new belt 23-hours a day. i usually only defecate in the mornings, after waking and drinking coffee, so i am allowed time out of belt for that purpose. And of course, NO orgasms during this time either.

The comfort mainly comes in 2-ways….

1) the vulva covering. In looking at the pics, you can see the plate itself is curved into a sort of U-type shape whereas the old belt the plate was flat and straight. The curved shape fits better between my legs and minimize more of the natural curvature of a person’s body

As well, the edge of the plate has a circular-type beveled edge on it, whereas the old belt was just a flat-straight-edge. So the outer edges fit more into the u-shape of my body and the actual edge doesn’t feel so sharp against my thighs.

2) The Waist Belt is made in 3-distinct parts, held together by small, yet effective, screws. You can see the gold fastener and the screws in the top picture, on the left side of the waist belt. This is in comparison to the old belt that, while it was curved metal, it was just one piece.

The sides of this waist belt fit more snug and more in line with the natural curves of a waist than the old belt had. So when laying down in this belt, it doesn’t press or dig into my sides the way the old belt does.

Again, I didn’t even fully appreciate the comfort features on this new belt until i was in the old belt for a short period yesterday! But now, i know! (Never going back to that old belt again if i can help it!)

Hygiene

It is much easier to use the bathroom to urinate in this new belt over the old one.

Due to the U-shape mentioned above, the urine funnels into the dome (see the second picture above for the best angled view of the dome) and out of the holes much better than the old belt did. With the old belt, since the vaginal covering was flat, the urine just spilled out in any direction it wished to go.

i have learned to go to the bathroom sooner though than i might would have otherwise. At first, i dreaded going to the bathroom in the belt. That was true of both old and new belts. That’s because it seemed like such a process and a huge effort that i tried to do it as minimally as possible. i even think i stopped drinking as much fluids so as to only have to go a few times a day.

This new belt though is so much easier to clean up and dry off that it is just not an issue to go pee, except when i have to go badly. When my bladder is very full, the urine comes out so quickly that it fills the dome and spills over onto the sides of the plate covering. The effect is then the same with the new belt as the old belt. So now i go to the bathroom much more frequently than i did before so that the stream is not as strong and it flows through the dome and not out and all around it.

As i mentioned before, i have not defecated in the belt yet, so i can’t speak to that but i suspect it won’t really be different in the new belt than what that was in the old belt. And the old belt was super easy to go poop, that i expect this won’t be a problem. Once i get the rear opening AND on the belt AND have to poop, i’ll let you know for sure.

Shower

Both belts are equal in terms of showering. It is easy.

The old belt’s lock was not waterproof, but the belt was, so i made sure to cover the lock (with a Ziploc baggie) to avoid getting it wet. The new belt website says it is fully water proof, but as my luck has gone with their website, i am completely unsure if the LOCK is waterproof. As such, while i suspect the lock is water proof, i am just not trusting of it. So far to date, i have showered with the lock covered up the same as the old belt.

Sound

i didn’t know that SOUND would be something to consider, but it is. Due to the belt and the lock both being made of metal, when i walk the lock taps (gently) against the belt and there is a clinking sound. It’s not terribly loud, but it is obvious.

The old belt had this too, but it wasn’t quite as loud as this new belt. i didn’t really notice it much in the old belt, but this new belt is definitely louder!

i think the new one is louder because the lock itself is bigger. And with the bigger lock, comes more weight, comes a bigger clink.

i have had to adjust the way i walk a bit so as to minimize the sound, especially in times where it would be obvious to another person that it is coming from my waist. i don’t mind this as it is making me stay in the here and now to be cognizant of the belt at all times.

But i suppose in comparison to the old belt, the new belt has a negative mark against it for the louder sound. Given the old belt also had sound, i won’t give this new belt a lower mark though either.

Lock

The lock on this new belt is very tight on the circle knob that locks the belt pieces together and in place.

In fact, when it first arrived, i thought the lock was too small as i couldn’t figure out how to get it on/ off at first. i finally realized that it was that snug intentionally. And when you hold the lock at a 45 degree angle while it is surrounding the circle knob, and press down on the lock at the same time, it gives a slight ‘pop’ and gets itself into place.

Once i figured it out, it isn’t hard but it was NOT obvious what-so-ever!

In fact, when i first emailed the owners of Fancy Steel about the rear opening, i also told them the lock didn’t fit. It was only after they wrote back with instructions on how to make it pop into place did i realize how to make it work. i wrote back and told them, “You should have some sort of instructions or a short video showing people how to do that.”

They agreed. In fact, they said they will probably create a video now.

That said, after i figured out how to make the lock work, it is actually better than the old belt or old lock. Because it is SO tightly positioned against the circle knob, it would be difficult to cut it off. There’s just no room between the circle and the lock to fit any kind of cutter in there, which effectively makes the belt be just that much more effective.

Abstinence

Because this belt has a better waist belt fit, U-shaped Vagina cover and a very secure lock, the overall security is better than the old belt. While i could still get a finger in there and touch myself if i really wanted to, it’s not very easy or much of a true turn on. In fact, like the old belt, i have to stand in a sumo-wrestler sort of pose, with my legs held wideeeee apart and press a single finger under the plate to get access. And that finger is nearly pinched in the process too.

All in all….

A really well built belt.

And when it gets “fixed,” i will be very happy.

And so will David.

And that’s when the key will be taken away for real.

And that’s it.

(What did i miss? What else do you need to know?)

Hugs,

Marie

295 – Chastity Belt – SOP

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As i was thinking it may happen, it’s now official! i have a clear directive – or Standard Operating Procedure (SOP) – has now been decided and communicated to me.

i am to “assume there is a standing order to wear the belt, unless told otherwise with a specifically communicated reason to not wear it.”

i have now had the Fancy Steel, permanent and more durable and more fitted, Chastity Belt for one week now. i have been in-belt more than out-of-belt during the last week too.

Thinking about the times i have been out-of-belt the most over this last week, it has been overnight. i have only slept in the belt one night so far.

Yesterday evening, i asked permission to be out-of-belt as David had heated up our pool and i wanted to go swimming. While i ended up NOT swimming (not a relevant point), i was given permission to be out-of-belt. So it was off from (about) 7p last night and is still off now at 5:30p. It is now (about) 22’ish consecutive hours out-of-belt. While i haven’t officially calculated it out, it’s probably the longest consecutive amount of time out-of-belt in the last 7-days.

But the belt will go back on as soon as i home from work, which is to happen in the next hour.

The directive for the now SOP came late this morning when i had been at work for just a bit.

i was struggling with what to do (wear or not wear the belt, ask or not ask if i should, etc!), so i started a text dialogue with David, as follows:

So as i was preparing for work, i decided to take some leftovers from last night’s dinner for my lunch today. i was getting out the plastic/ storage dishes and scooping food into the smaller ones to take “just some” of it to work, when David came into the kitchen and inquired about what i was doing.

When i told him, he said, “Just take the whole (full) container” and i said (with a little sharper tone and demeanor than i had intended), “No. i don’t need all this. And i don’t want to stand at the microwave (at work for lunch) heating this entire dish of food, when i want just a small portion.”

Well. Sir said, “it doesn’t look like the new container that you are using is much smaller than the one that has the original food. Just take it all.”

“Yes, i know. We just don’t own many small single-serve storage containers. But i don’t need to take all this with me so this is easier.” (Again, too much “tone” went with this statement!)

That was when David’s eyebrows raised up and he asked in a stern voice, “why are you talking to me in this tone?! And why are you not just doing as I told you to?”

i was a bit snappy for sure. My response was, “i just don’t need the entire container at work is all.”

That’s when he didn’t appreciate me NOT recognizing or apologizing for the tone i used and said, “bend over the counter!”

And so he gave me a small (clothing on) spanking with his hand, that i definitely felt, and that we were both aware was to make a point more than anything. It was a reminder. Of what could come if i continue on.

He then said, “if you want to keep this up, the next spanking will be worse.”

“Yes Sir. i’m sorry Sir.” And then i was off to work (with my smaller containers of portion-appropriate food in hand).

Soooo when he asked me the question above about whether the belt was on or off when i was arguing this morning, that was what it was in reference to.

And this was the next part of our texting conversation:

i admitted to him (and you too), i was snarky.

Sir didn’t have to say it. i knew. He thinks that i am more submissive when i am in-belt than when i am out-of-belt. i’m not sure if that’s true or not, but it may well be. i just don’t know. But i think we are nearing the point where we will be finding out soon!

And then i waited to hear more. We went radio-silent for a bit. i knew he needed time to think and i couldn’t demand an immediate answer. That’s understandable.

But that understanding didn’t seem to last too long. About an hour later, this was the next part:

So. Now i know. The SOP is to “assume the belt goes on. Until or unless it is explicitly said otherwise.”

AND i got a positive confirmation that he still intends to use and play with me. So there’s that!

The very last of our conversation went like this:

So i said thanks, and acknowledged/ admitted i will willingly submit.

If i’m being honest, i’m not certain how i feel about this.

This is no longer a fantasy, or a “scene,” but instead it now a way of life. While i expected it, and we’ve been moving ever closer to this really, knowing it and living it aren’t entirely the same. The very true and full reality that my control is completely taken away is about to hit me hard.

i think i will like it, but i am a bit nervous too. i will keep you posted!

What i know without a doubt is that now the “Belt Rules” are all feeling super real!

Lastly – if you are curious about the “get it fixed” part…. Well…. that will be expanded on as part of my “full belt review” still to come.

Hugs,

Marie

293 – Submission and Belt Rules

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We are not ones who are super big on D/s contracts, writing down the rules, or otherwise posting them. That said, i do have rules and we do have process/procedures. We just didn’t ever take time to sit and write it all down to make it official/formal.

Recently i was surfing the internet and came across a site (www.BeltedGirls.com) where i found a set of rules that a belted girl, along with her husband, documented for her “Submission & Belt Rules.”

i rather love her rules and it seems to say everything that i would, if i were to put into writing my “rules.”

Here are the Submission and Belt Rules:

i rather liked these rules so much that i showed it to David. Sir’s response was, “Sounds about spot on.”

We didn’t talk much more about it really, but i think when i adjust to the new permanent/ more durable belt, these rules will become our rules too.

1. The belt can come off when exercising.
2. Husband will hold the key.
3. Husband controls when I’m going to orgasm
4. Husband controls when the belt comes off and I will not expect penetration just because its off
5. The belt will keep me from masturbating when he is away or I am away from him.
6. To receive pleasure (his cock) then I must earn it.
7. I will be ready to please him whenever, however and as often as he desires, with or without the belt on.
8. I will not beg him to remove the belt but will learn that it is a privilege to have it off.
9. I will not reach orgasm unless I have explicit permission from my husband.
10. I must tell my husband if I have an orgasm without his permission. This is disrespectful to him. Always.
11. I will never fondle myself or use toys in any manner unless he tells me to or gives explicit approval to do so.
12. My husband’s job is to make sure that I am shaven to his liking. If not, then he will be allowed to shave me, if he wishes to do so, and discipline me accordingly.
13. Each week I will receive maintenance spankings out of love as a reminder that he is in control, which may or may not occur with the belt on.
14. Breaking any of these rules results in punishment.

There are a few alterations that i/we would make to a few of these rules, as follows:

#4 – While the essence of this is absolutely spot on, i’d maybe make the first part more emphasized. Husband is ALWAYS in control of when the belt is on or off.

#5 – i’d rephrase this to simply say, “The belt will keep me from masturbating.” Period. The end. Delete the entire last part of that because whether it is on, with or without him present, it will keep me from masturbating. Always. (And it definitely does that!)

#6 – i would make a slight addition to have this read “To receive pleasure (his cock) and be allowed to orgasm i must earn it.”

Those are all slight adjustments and, even without those changes, the essence is still spot on!

But the one rule that hit me and sunk in the most was #8….

8. I will not beg him to remove the belt but will learn that it is a privilege to have it off.

With just my experiences of continuous wear to date, this has already become one of the hardest for me to adhere to. So it stands to reason, that with continuous/ long term wear with the permanent (more durable) belt, i will likely always struggle with this one rule over all the others!

i have told David i intend to expand the “will not beg” part to read more like, “i will not beg for the Belt to be removed unless i can prove or show why it is completely necessary.” That may be what the original author intended as well, but it wasn’t entirely clear.

The beg part is truly what i have already failed miserably at. When i have the CB off, i find i yearn to have it on and vice versa too! And when it’s on, i talk about it ALL the time… asking David “ready to give me the key??” ….To allow me to take it off. Honestly it gets to the point of annoying for us both! i admit that it even annoys me, even though i can’t seem to resist (and my will power fails).

So i have now told David that i think i need to change that behavior. When it goes on, it stays on until David decides to have it taken off. Period. The end.

He knows it’s on when it’s on. In fact, he ordered it on! He won’t forget.

And even “if” he were to forget, when we are apart, when we are back again together he will know as he will see it. When we sleep, i am always naked except when the belt is on. And he will see it. And even “if” he were to forget, …. Well… i know he won’t. So that “if” by some strange happenstance, odd, and truly not likely situation, he has forgotten – he will instantly be reminded.

That means there is NO reason to talk about it, remind him, or beg for it to otherwise be taken off.

That brings us to that last part about how i will not beg for it to come off…. “unless i can prove or show why it is completely necessary.” means is that the belt has to come off for a particular and unavoidable, probably an emergency, situation.

Maybe one example of it being “completely necessary,” example, would be a belt malfunction. Maybe a screw comes lose and needs to be retightened. Or maybe a screw comes out altogether and without reattaching it, the Belt could fall apart and/or fall off.

Another possibility might be if it is ill-fitting. Maybe the belt pinches, binds, or otherwise causes an injured spot to appear on my skin. This is a real possibility but once i get the settings correct for band width or length, and the tightness adjustments made, this is not too likely. Yet it is possible for sure.

Another example would be if/when i go through a security screening machine. One looking for metal. Obviously the machine is looking to find guns and knives or other similar weapons, and clearly NOT looking to find a chastity belt (!!). Can you imagine what an awkward situation that would be?! Of course, this isn’t likely to happen as an “emergency situation” though either. We will likely always know ahead of time and plan accordingly.

So honestly, there aren’t many reasons to have to cause me to EVER have to beg for it off.

So WHY then do i sometimes do just that… beg for it to be off?!

Good question!

After the new belt arrived (and we figured out the lock did fit albeit a bit differently than we expected… another post!) the belt went on.

It went on about 5’ish pm on Friday evening, and it is now Sunday morning. It has been about 36-hours now, with no clear or obvious-to-me end in sight.

And while it does not hurt, pinch, or have any other belt malfunction reason for me to have a legit reason to BEG TO HAVE IT OFF, i already (sort of) did just that.

Are you asking, “how do you sort of beg?” Yah, so, i knew i wasn’t supposed to beg. But i wanted to ask for it off too.

i knew he’d ask, “why?” As in “for what legit reason are you asking?”. i also knew i didn’t have a reason. In fact, when i asked myself that question, the only real answer i could think of was because i am not used to wearing it as of late …..AND…. because i wanted to.

i wanted to ask to have it off because i didn’t like the “game” anymore. i wanted to take back the control of my own sex and my own body. Saying it another way, i wanted to be selfish and NOT be submissive at least in this small way.

So i was hanging around David yesterday morning (after 12-hours of wear) a bit longer than usual, trying to think up a good way to ask (but not beg), when he noticed. He even told ME, “you want the belt off, don’t you?”

“Yes Sir.”

“Why?” < – see, i told you!

i told him all of what i told you above. It didn’t fly. He said, “uh, yeah. So the answer is no. You don’t need to have that control. You just want it. And I’m saying no.”

Then again after lunch (18-hours of wear), David asked me, “how you doing?” Since our son is home for the Christmas break, i assumed David was speaking in code. i responded with, “Yes. Overall. But i wouldn’t mind if it came off.”

He said, “I said no. I meant no. I only asked since it’s a new belt and wanted to be sure you were ok.”

Well….. so… the keys to the lock are sitting on the bathroom counter, and i said, “i could just use the keys, you know.”

And his immediate response was, “And I could just use the crop too… You Know!”

i paused a second and said, “and then i suppose the belt will just go right back on too.”

While he didn’t even much respond to that comment (as i believe he took it to be rhetorical in nature), he did say, “We’ve spent enough money on this, and waited long enough for its delivery, that you should know….you WILL be wearing it! Get used to it!”

The way he said it, i wondered if he had an exact plan. So i inquired. His words came back to me with, “No, I don’t have a full plan. But it will come together soon. What I know for sure is this is going to end up being your new normal.”

Sucking cock while in belt

THEN after dinner (24-hours of continuous wear), i was sitting on the couch watching tv with him. i grabbed up his arm and wrapped it around my shoulders, like you would a nice warm blanket, just to be wrapped up in “him.”

He didn’t just let his arm rest on my shoulder though. He then pressed downward, causing my face to be guided to his crotch. His pants were still on and he laughed saying, “oops. How did that happen?”

i looked up at him and smiled. And pulled his zipper down and started sucking his cock hard. After some time of that, he pulled me back and asked, “how was that? Want out of your belt now?!”

i said, “Yes Sir, i do. i want to have the belt off, be allowed to sit down on and ride your hard cock… to be able to take advantage of what i just created.”

He slapped a butt cheek and said, “No. Not tonight. But this was good, thank you!” As he zipped his pants back, he laughed more. Then added, “now let’s watch the rest of our tv show together.” i felt my puss dripping juices into the dome shield that covered her.

New normal

i suspect i will now find my life to be more time IN belt than OUT. And that’s probably a good thing, but will require a fundamental mindset change that i will have to adjust to too.

Why will it be a good thing?

Because it forces me to submit in a very tangible and physical way. Sometimes i need to be reminded and reinforced who i submit to and why.

Like in the spirit of Rule #9 & #10 above, when i masturbate and/or orgasm without David present (or at his directive), it is disrespectful and selfish too.

When i do these things, i also become less agreeable to wanting to engage in sexual activities with him. i usually then have an “i already did that” attitude and a “i’m not interested now,” way too. None of which is how a married woman should act with her husband. Ever!

So being reminded to NOT be selfish, to NOT do sexual things by myself or to myself (without him present and telling me it is allowed), and to be under David’s authority is a better way of life.

i just have to change my mindset about wearing the belt. i have to learn to love the belt ON. And i know i truly will!

So. The belt is currently still on.

And i don’t know when it’s coming off. But i will work to NOT BEG at all. And to accept that THIS is good for me, and that i NEED to NOT be in control, and acknowledge in all ways i WANT David in control.

And i will PRAY he wants to finger, lick, fuck, or all of the above (!) at least one of my holes soon!

(i will do a full review of the new belt soon. Still creating thoughts and forming opinions about it.)

Hugs,

Marie