Author: Marie

The Making Of A Pain Slut

Written by Marie on August 22, 2025. Posted in My Dominant Sir, my submissiveness, Orgasm Denial, Punishment, Submissive Wife. No Comments on The Making Of A Pain Slut

I’m often asked if I really get off on pain. The truth is now I do — at least to the kinds of punishments Sir prefers to give — but it wasn’t always that way.

I’ve always loved a lot of breast play (my nipples are red-hot express lines direct to my cunt), but spanking, paddling, clamps, clothespins, hot wax, rope burn, slaps, etc. — on my breasts or anywhere — and maintaining difficult positions was all definitely more pain than pleasure in the beginning.

While Sir and I quickly discovered that I naturally became aroused by his inherent male powers over me, actual pain wasn’t so readily overcome by demonstrations of masculinity. Not even when combined with my desire to please him.

But Sir knew just what to do.

As I’ve mentioned before, many D/s relationships are based on a submissive’s dependence. Not only simple acts of comfort or kindness, but a cleverly calculated combination of pleasure and denial. For example, rubbing my pussy while spanking, paddling or cropping my ass, sends my brain a flood of conflicting input… Am I feeling pleasure or pain? Which am I feeling more of? It was horribly confusing…

But Sir also used denial to make sure my brain and body were led from confusion and rescued — he made sure that the only time I experienced sexual pleasure was when I was experiencing pain at his hand.

Sure, I could suck his cock and get him off; but I never felt his hands or mouth or cock on me unless he was also hurting me in his desired fashion.

While he may have focused on one sort of pain or use at a time, the method was the same: pain always came with pleasure and pleasure never came without pain. Until I began to have sort of Pavlov’s dog response. Eventually I learned to connect the pain (as in our earlier example) of being cropped with the euphoria of arousal and eventual orgasm.

No spanking, no coming; no pain, no gain. By George, my brain and body finally got it!

So much so, that when I am simply told to assume the position for a spanking, my cunt will drool! I might also be trembling with fear and crying in anticipation of the pain; but I’m sopping wet too. Even the next day’s bruises, welts, and sore spots became aphrodisiacs… Memories of what had been done, to me and by me; how I’d been undone.

It’s not cheating

Written by Marie on July 7, 2025. Posted in Anal Plug, My Dominant Sir, my submissiveness, Public Butt Plug, Submissive Wife. No Comments on It’s not cheating

When David set my June task to wear my butt plug for 50 hours i was concerned. He didn’t give me the task until the second week of June, so i was worried i wouldn’t have enough time to complete it. And i hadn’t worn the plug for consecutive days for quite some time. i wasn’t sure how multiple hours, several days in a row would work. But that was my challenge. And i think i rose to it. I’m now comfortable wearing the glass plug for extended hours. I’ve left the house with it in to do grocery shopping (one of my 101 Things). It is all together a more pleasant experience to put in and wear. i was doing so well that i finished my 50 hours early and Sir allowed me to start my July hours a few days before the month actually started.

This was a huge relief for me. i was worried about 100 hours in one month. Even wearing it every day for three hours per day wouldn’t be enough. And if i forgot a day or was excused from wearing it because i felt sick would really put me behind. So i started the month with eight hours already done. But yesterday i wasn’t really feeling well. i tried to put it in and just felt sick. i didn’t even last fifteen minutes. And then i started (in my usual anxious fashion) to start worrying about how i would make up that time.

Since my little accident with the glass plug David ordered me a new one and it arrived yesterday. i like my purple silicone one, but it just doesn’t feel as comfortable for longer amounts of time. So i had been doing my three hours and taking it out. But with the option of the glass plug back on the table, i considered something. What if i slept with it in? i hadn’t really thought about it before. But after i started weighing the options, I’m not sure why it hadn’t been there from the beginning.

So last night was my trial. Sir wanted me to take it out if it kept me up or if i woke up in the night in pain. It would be the longest i ever had it in, so i wasn’t sure. But it wasn’t a problem at all. 9 hours and i felt fine in the morning. In fact, it was kind of nice. Having my glass plug again was great. The flange is a lot smaller and smoother than my silicone plug, so moving around at night and sleeping on my back wasn’t a problem. i woke up, took it out and went on my way.

Popping the Cherry

Written by Marie on September 29, 2024. Posted in Anal Sex, DD, Domestic Discipline, My Dominant Sir. No Comments on Popping the Cherry

So I lost my anal virginity last night. Is that a thing? I’m sure it’s not. And those of you that have been doing this for a good decade or so will just laugh at this milestone. But for me, this is a big deal. I’ve been training for a few weeks now. Sir has been pushing me quite hard. We were going to start earlier in December, so I could be ready by 2015, but life happened.

I was just excited that it didn’t hurt as much as I thought. It actually felt pretty good. I don’t know what that says about me. That I was silly enough to think that it would hurt, or smart enough to be happy that it didn’t.

So that was my Friday night. Several orgasms and my first anal intercourse. Hope you all had a nice night too. I’m looking forward to the rest of my weekend. We’re staying in as it is still negative temperatures outside and in the forecast. After a few job applications I am hoping to curl up with a book and some coffee. Baby cuddles and quickies sound like my perfect Saturday afternoon.

A Domestic Discipline Contract Is A Godsend

Written by Marie on February 27, 2024. Posted in Domestic Discipline, Marriage, Spanking, Wife Spanking. 5 Comments on A Domestic Discipline Contract Is A Godsend

i was lucky: the domestic discipline contract David and I established in the beginning was relatively easy for both of us. i consider myself fortunate enough to marry a man who was willing to explore his dominant role hand-in-hand with me, i never had to go through the dilemma that most women find themselves in.

In most households, it’s the women who start this conversation. i know that there are men seeking DD relationships also, but for now let’s look at the woman’s perspective. i think because it’s the interest in spanking that all of us share which starts the ball rolling, it’s some time before women realize that it isn’t just spanking but something deeper they want – a real disciplinary framework backed up by consequences. For most women, they want those consequences to be spanking; there’s just something cathartic about it that is unlike having privileges taken away.

Because of that, many people seeking advice in the past on domestic discipline have been told to provoke or ask for spanking, which is really bad advice. Unfortunately, because so there’s so much out there for people wondering “am I kinky?”, or who get turned on by the thought of being a spanked wife, but not so much for people focused more on how to start domestic discipline. For me, approaching David and asking him for what i felt i needed – specifically my need for structure through discipline in addition to the arousal, pleasure, and release i get from his spankings – was crucial to our setting off on the right path.

i’ve gotten comments from people who for one reason or another have gone halfway on this first step finding themselves unsure how to correct the feeling that they’ve somehow gotten off course. “I got up the courage to tell my husband that I want to be spanked and now he thinks I’m kinky. He just doesn’t understand. It’s not just about that!”

For men, who often take things at face value if his woman tells him that she wants to be spanked then that is just what that means to him and he’ll either think it a nice new “spice” in the bedroom or will simply tell her he’s not interested in playing those kind of sexual games.

While domestic discipline often incorporates spanking, spanking isn’t all what it’s all about. Domestic discipline is about a loving disciplinary framework worked out and agreed upon by both partners. In this relationship, rules are laid out that both can live with from a compliance and an enforcement standpoint. She has to feel comfortable obeying them; he has to feel they are important enough to enforce. He has to agree to follow through. She has to agree not to abuse her need to feel boundaries by breaking them intentionally just to get punished. This relationship shouldn’t feel like a parent/child setting but a system between two equals.

Domestic discipline is a contract between you and your husband, with rules that must be followed in order for it to work. For a contract to work, it has to be understood by both parties, who have to agree to it. If a contract is going to be sustainable, it has to benefit both parties.

It helps to have already established a relationship with your husband where you can tell him your feelings and insecurities without the fear of reproach or ridicule. It really helps if you’re in a relationship with a husand with whom you can communicate and whom you respect. If the relationship is already rocky, the last thing you want to do is implement a system where there is a power imbalance. If your marriage isn’t strong, shelve DD awhile and work on the relationship. You can always try to implement it later.

If you can talk to him, tell him that you have a deep, unmet need for limits and guidelines. Tell him that you feel secure living under the rules of loving authority. Reassure him that you aren’t looking for a daddy but more of a mentor figure who will shepherd you within a loving framework.

Give him time to absorb this. Remember that in our politically correct culture, a male-dominated home may seem almost like an alien concept. In the initial conversation you may not even want to bring up the subject of rules or consequences. Just let him know about your needs. Answer any questions he has as honestly as you can.

If he does understand and – best case scenario – this appeals to him then you will want to start brainstorming together about a possible rules and consequences. At this point you could bring up spanking. He may embrace the idea or he may really shy away from it because men are told they shouldn’t hit women. It’s a good idea at this point to let him in on what you already know, which is that quite a few principled men and women are living in arrangements where spanking and other consequences are used quite effectively. Again, give him time to absorb what you have said. If he’s so inclined he can solicit advice from some men who are already established as dominant partners in their relationship.

If he is open to the idea of a domestic discipline contract, shower him with love and appreciation. If he is reluctant, be understanding and patient. If he flat out refuses – worst case scenario – respect his feelings and try to imagine how you would feel if he were trying to convince you to discipline him. Some men are not interested in having a submissive wife, or in being a dominant husband and as much as it hurts, if you are in a relationship to stay then you must not push something on him that will bring him unhappiness.

Building a domestic discipline relationship is like building a house. It requires a good foundation of respect, understanding and patience. That foundation is your domestic discipline contract. If approached in a prudent manner dividends will pay off in the long run and you will both have a household that is the richer for it.

306 – Spanked with a belt in 1923

Written by Marie on February 28, 2023. Posted in Uncategorized. No Comments on 306 – Spanked with a belt in 1923

SPOILER ALERT… if you watch 1923 the tv show, but haven’t seen the latest episode(s), you probably don’t want to read anything more.

^^ These two. In the Paramount TV “1923.” They have had TWO spanking scenes.

If you like Yellowstone and have now been watching 1923, you probably have seen the TWO scenes i am speaking of. And if you haven’t seen the show, maybe consider it.

i tried googling the show and these scenes, but didn’t come up with much…. So

here’s the summary…..

SCENE 1:

They are prostitutes. Hired by a really rich guy to keep him company, but instead of enjoying his spoils, he gets arrested just when they are in his bed and making out with each other.

Then the rich guy asks another rich guy to get the two out of his house, while rich guy #1 is incarcerated. Rich guy #2 goes to the house and meets these two, while they are half dressed and in the kitchen eating (the photo above.). He goes to pay them for their time, and Brown headed says, “That’s too much.”

And Rich Guy says, “who says we are done?”

That’s when Rich Guy tells brown headed girl to lay down across the counter top, and he pulls his belt off and hands it to Red Headed. He tells her to whip Brown Headed girl, and Red headed does it with reluctance.

After just a couple of swings of the belt, Brown Headed girl let’s out some rather loud yells of pain, to which Rich Guy makes it clear he wants to hear none of that and she needs to stop. And she does.

He gets somewhat irritated and takes back the belt, and swings it HARD to show Red Headed how to do it with power and purpose and authority. Then he hands the belt back to her and demands that Red Headed spanks Brown Headed with the same fervor as he did. And she does, but again reluctantly. Before long, Brown Headed is begging for it to stop and tears are falling.

SCENE 2:

A few episodes later … the girls are back. And Red Headed already has Brown Headed in tears by whipping her with intense swings of the belt against her bare ass.

Rich Guy stops her and says, (more or less… not the EXACT words though.. quoting this from memory)…. “You probably think I am enjoying seeing her be whipped. That’s not it. I enjoy seeing YOU…with that power and control and authority. Think about the POWER you have. Dwell on it. Enjoy it.”

After a brief pause, he continued, “Now. Go back and start again, and when you do, truly think about your AUTHORITY and POWER.”

Rich guy then watches as Red Headed truly starts to enjoy herself and whips the Brown Headed with a newfound zeal.

THAT is when he orders her to stop. He takes the belt from her, leans over to Brown Headed and says, “your turn.” He tells Red Headed to Assume The Position (my words, not his!) and demands she take what Brown Headed dishes out next.

Brown Headed delivers a rage filled spanking in short order, while yelling out sounds of anger and aggression but with no coherent words.

And the camera cuts to Rich Guy’s face, who is sitting in a nearby chair drinking a whiskey, and smiling big.

That brings me to us….

While watching the scene(s), Sir said, “Does that make you all juicy?”

And the truth of the matter is… it did. At least at first. When the Brown Headed went all crazy lunatic on the Red Headed, i cringed. But the rest of it… i loved.

There was a lot to unpack in those scenes though too. It was more than me getting wet. And David knew it too. And he asked me to elaborate.Here is all that i said…

So I have mixed feelings about those scenes.

I think it is sexy as all get out to have a woman submit. It does get me wet. It made me wet to see the (Brown headed) girl spanked — but also the other (Red Headed) girl was being submissive to do the spanking too.. just as she was told to do.

I think taking the spanking that is given (without a safe word) by the dominant is a sign of true submission. It makes me feel like my mind has conquered my body and endured…. And have accomplished something, achieved a goal… just as I was told to do. I ultimately gave up the power.

So to that, I can totally relate to the (Rich guy) man saying it’s about the power that’s a turn on. When the Brown Headed girl takes the spanking, she’s allowing the Red Headed girl (and him) to have the power … and Brown Headed accepts it.

But here’s where the mixed part comes in — because I’m not too sure either girl is WILLINGLY doing it, I think they are (in large part) being MADE to do it. That part I don’t like.

When I submit fully and willingly hand over all control to be spanked or put in chastity without the key —- turns into a “you are a good girl” moment and a “I’m proud of you” kind of thing. It’s when I want you to spank HARD and then praise me for being so good (and willing).

I did NOT like it at all when Brown Headed girl (original one to BE spanked who then got the belt handed to her) was allowed to have that much rage and complete aggression against her original spanker. But I think that was what Rich Guy wanted! I don’t think spankings should ever be about rage…. Then it’s just a beating. And THAT I didn’t like at all!

When it’s controlled power, and willing submission, it’s about acceptance of who has the authority and who does not. And giving up the control — fully — is what I crave. I want to get to the place where I don’t ever have or use safe words … because I totally and completely yield to your authority!

And like I said above — in some ways the scenes with the girls are a turn on because they are submitting fully (both of them!), but then it’s mixed for me as I think they are doing it from a forced position too. (But the second time – last night’s show – made me think that they willingly did it on some level as they came back for more, presumably on their own free will… and right?!)

How’s that for my thoughts Sir?

[by the way … I’m going to put my belt on tonight. You can decide when it comes off. I think I need to be reminded that it’s not mine to play with and this is after I laid in bed and rubbed myself to orgasm right beside you last night.]

ALL that was what i said to David.

David’s response was, “I think that was the guy’s ultimate goal and turn on. He knew he could elicit rage.”

And he added, “But they do have cute tits.” And i agree. They do. Lol.

Use the belt

David hasn’t used the belt on me but one time ever. It was quite a long time ago now too.

He didn’t feel much in control of it or where it landed. So he quickly came to prefer the paddle, and now lately seems to prefer the whip.

i think when he used the belt before, we were too new to this and it scared him about the (possible) unintentional damage he might cause. But now, we aren’t new. Now he might could rather enjoy using a belt.

Using a belt would be a good fix for a vacation spanking implement as it’s rather easy to pack! Of course, possibly not very quiet. But then again, much of the noise may be more about MY sounds rather than the belt sounds too. Maybe i could manage to be quiet and it wouldn’t be heard though too… like Brown Headed girl as she’s quite silent!

i kind of hope he does use it again sometime soon. i would rather like to feel how it’s similar or different than the paddle or the cane or the whip. But then again, maybe i wouldn’t….. let’s face it, they ALL hurt!

But it’s not about my pain but rather his power…. Just like Rich guy said. Or maybe not his power, but definitely his control. When i submit like that, i am absolutely giving up all control! Willingly.

Tonight

David is NOT spanking me.. easy or hard, with or without a belt. But i actually think i should be spanked.

i haven’t been very good lately. Of course, i think some of the reason i have not been spanked is that i had that ear infection and wasn’t feeling well. i am finally over that though too.

So after i nearly caused a fight with David yesterday, then rubbed myself to orgasm, all while NOT being spanked…. i decided at a minimum i needed to be reminded of that control and power and authority… and to submit to it…..

So that’s why i am voluntarily wearing my CB tonight. Just like i said in my message to David above.

He didn’t comment when i put it on. i don’t know if he didn’t comment as it was expected, it happened, and therefore, nothing noteworthy to discuss. Most likely that’s the case, but maybe not. i didn’t ask, as that seemed self serving and arrogant…. “What do you think? Why didn’t you comment?”…. Didn’t seem altogether appropriate.

A few things i know for sure

Is that i am not the one who will ever be holding the belt.

David will never spank me in rage.

Wearing my chastity belt is another sign of authority that is exercised over me.

i won’t be orgasming tonight.

i submit willingly.

i get juicy when watching spanking … and power exchange… scenes.

i wonder if the prostitutes will have a three-peat.

My Sir holds the power, and i like it that way.

And my life is good!

Hugs,

Marie