1 – The Journey Begins
Thanks for joining me! Thank you for coming here and giving me your time. I am quite appreciative!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
Good Company does indeed make the journey seem shorter and I hope to become friends with you and that you will reach out to me as you deem fit. In the meantime, this is a place where I can share my life, my marriage, my adventures and mis-adventures, and keep track of who I am. This is the place I reflect on everything and by writing it down, it will ground me and force me to focus on each-and-every-word that is my life.
But to begin, I want you know….. This is something I actually asked for! YES, I initiated it! I ASKED FOR IT!
You may be wondering WHY would I do this Domestic Discipline thing. Or WHY would I welcome it. Encourage it. Hope for it. And expect it. And certainly want it.
So it was surprising to me too actually. That I would WANT this to be apart of my life and marriage. But the simple and the simple answer is: it is biblical.
I’ll go into more of that in another post. But now, I need to respect my husband’s wishes that I actually focus on work today. And I’ll be back soon.
Hugs,
Marie
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Virgil
Very new here my wife has came to me also. I’ve tried once or twice but never fully committed to the lifestyle. I have not given it a chance mainly because of misconceptions in my own mind. But I know this will save my marriage and I’m all in but have no idea where to start. Any advice would be so very appreciated. Thank you
Marie
Hi Virgil! Thanks for joining my journey….and it sounds like, yours too! While I wouldn’t consider myself an “expert” on this lifestyle, I do have a bit of advice that may very well help. The first thing I’d say is: just like there are no two people alike, there’s also no two marriages are alike, including those with Domestic Discipline or Dominant/submissive as part of it. So be flexible and take what you like and ignore what you don’t. The second thing I’d say is: take things slow and easy. Don’t overcomplicate things. “Rules” can be a big part of this lifestyle. She wants them. You need to enforce them. But the rules can be easy. And you can amend/adjust/ add as you go. I’d suggest you think of ONE thing you’d like her to do better at. Maybe something that is a big annoyance for you. And tell her it’s now a rule that xyz happens. (In my case… my husband hates having dishes in the sink and I did it more often than not. He said “no more dishes in the sink. If I find them there and discover it was you who left them, you’ll be punished.”). Third: don’t be afraid to enforce the rules. In fact, I’d tell you she will respect you MORE for enforcing them than if you give her free passes/ let things slide/ ignore transgressions. Fourth: educate yourself. And tell her to educate herself. And as you do, COMMUNICATE with one another. Read all you can and talk about what/how to implement the things you both like. You can’t communicate enough! You have to be open and honest and just start talking! And lastly… don’t be afraid to adjust things that work or don’t. Feel free to email me if you want to talk more… I’ll help in any way I can! Hugs! Marie
Cheryl
Hi Marie,
I am a 62 year old woman happily married to my soul mate for 35 years this May (2023); we have been together for 37 years in total. I recently forced the rekindling of our intimate and sexual life because for more years than I can tell you it laid dormant. My husband is a strong man but a quiet man, he finds talking about sex very difficult. While doing research I came upon this type of lifestyle and I’m very interested in having my husband be the leader of our household and discipline me. I feel I need this because I just want to control everything and sometimes I’m really mean about it. He is a good man and I probably don’t deserve him but we love each other very much. For many years he used to tease me around my birthday that he wanted to give me birthday spankings. I would chuckle at his statement and he would laugh along with me. He never tried to actually spank me. Recently I discovered that he truly really did want to spank me but since I’ve told him that I want him to spank me nothing has happened. Can you give me some tips on how to get this all going?
Thanks so much for reading my comment.
Cheryl
Marie
Hi Cheryl,
I’m happy you found my blog and started out with a post too. I love the interaction and appreciate the back/forth between us.
While we just celebrated our 22nd anniversary and don’t have quite as many years as you, your story sounds so familiar. When I discovered my husband was at least willing to spank me, I bought a paddle. Then I handed it to him and said, “I truly want to change our lifestyle. I truly want to rekindle what we once had. I feel that this is at least one way to do it and I’d like to try it. I want you to be in control and in charge. I’ll be in the bedroom and ready for you to try this out.” And I went and got naked and laid on the bed face down and waited. Of course, that was enough time for either of us to chicken out and think twice. While we probably did think twice, neither of us chickened out (obviously.). And I didn’t look him in the eye when he came in either. I just laid very still, face in the pillow, and said, “I’m ready Sir.”
The first MANY times he spanked me I had to reassure him (a lot!), tell him to go harder and longer, and that this was indeed a good thing and what I wanted. We have now eventually figured it out obviously but it did take a long time too. So don’t be surprised if the first times he spanks you, you are disappointed. But remember it’s a start too!
Maybe this could work for you also. Try making him VERY aware that your intentions are VERY real. And maybe this lifestyle can be a good thing for you both. Keep me posted.
Hugs,
Marie