DAY 10: HOW FAR…What are your hard limits?
Honestly, i don’t have many hard limits at all. i used to. But i have always had a “i’ll try anything once” attitude about everything in life. So when i started with hard limits in this lifestyle, David asked why.
(Side note: i have this personal policy because…just like a kid saying they don’t like peas… how do you know unless you try it?)
He reminded me of all the things, non-sexual, that had i not been willing to “try anything at least once” that i would have missed out on.
Like the hot air balloon ride over the dessert in Arizona. Or the white water rafting in Colorado. Or eating at a restaurant in Paris when the menu was entirely in French and all i could do was point to the middle and pray! (Still don’t know what i actually ate but it was delicious!)
But also the swingers club and the “happy ending massage” and kissing the girl for the first time too. (Never say never)
So why would i now say “that’s not something i am willing to do!”???
After thinking about that a bit.. i had to agree. Mostly. Ha.
So the only true hard limit i have is choking/strangulation. The I-D-E-A of not being able to breathe gives me anxiety, so the actual event would likely through me into a full panic attack! David has no desire to try that for fear of hurting (or killing!) me accidentally. (Phew, don’t need to worry about that one!)
The other things that i’d like to say are hard limits too, (but pushed even a little to “try it at least once” and i would likely relent) are:
1) Water sports…aka peeing on or in me…. i’ve seen that some Head of House (HoH) husbands use it as discipline. David hasn’t tried this, but i know if he did, i’d ultimately submit.
2) permanent markings….. ok, i already have a tattoo and now pierced nipples too…. so not sure if that counts, but i guess permanent markings might not be a hard limit either.
3) snakes …okay, this one is probably a SUPER HARD limit. i am SO very afraid of them!! Irrationally afraid really, but it is what it is.
4) anything that could get me arrested…. yeah, this is probably a hard limit too cuz i have no desire to go to the pokey!
So ultimately my “real” hard limits list is super short, or at least i think it is. And my “probably” hard limits list isn’t that long either.
What would you have on your list? And why wouldn’t you be willing to try it…at least once?